When a baby is in a mother's womb there is high expectation, everyone
is looking forward to the birth of a bundle of joy. But for the mother
who has to go through labor pains or a C-Section, she can feel much more
than exhausted for a long time after the baby is born. As she is the
only one who has to deal with sore nipples, when she breast feeds,
swollen breasts at times, an over sized waistline and other
abnormalities.
It is much harder for mothers to deal with these changes when the
father of the baby is not supportive, and there are no friends and
relatives around who understands the way women feel after they give
birth for the first time.
Mother's will even end up feeling as if they don't love their baby,
when they start thinking of the many things they will not be able to do
anymore, because of the baby who needs all the attention they can give
and more. It is not easy to go from being a carefree individual, who is
able to go anywhere and do anything they feel like doing, to one that
has such a huge responsibility in a day. And when friends and relatives
are not supportive a mother can end up feeling depressed.
It is not easy to deal with a baby who cries for every want and need
(as crying is the only way in which a baby communicates) This is even
harder to deal with in the first 6 weeks of the baby's life, as the
mother has a lot of adjustment to make. She has to develop new sleeping
patterns and there is hardly anything in this world that is more
exhausting than taking care of a newborn when you feel as if you are in
need of care also. When they cry and you try to do all you can to make
them feel better, but they won't stop crying. Life can be very stressful
and all a young mother will want to do is cry and feel sorry for
herself.
Many mothers have felt depressed after they have given birth to a
child, as they wonder if their bodies will ever look the way it looked
before they got pregnant. They worry about their breasts and wonder how
they will look after the end of breast feeding, they also worry about
their waistline and what they will need to do to get back in shape.
Dealing with Postpartum Psychosis syndrome can be another problem that
women face after they have given birth and this should be treated by
professionals, as some women have been known to harm their child during
their illness. So relatives and friends should pay close attention to
women who give birth.
And it would be nice if there were people around to tell mothers with
new born babies, that things will get better. And this baby that just
eats and poops, will start talking and walking and say things that you
will laugh about. They will make you forget about the sad times as they
quickly develop and become independent. Soon they will even want to tell
you what you should be doing, as they become special individuals and
make you proud.
Remember when you see the proud mothers who attend graduations and
weddings, they all went through the things mothers go through for the
first few weeks of a baby’s life, and they made it. So every mother can
hang in there and make it through the rough days, until their baby grows
up and make them proud.
Friends and relatives should always be supportive, so they can help
mothers in these times. They should never say anything that will cause a
mother to feel as if she will never make it through these tough times.
And she is being a terrible mother, and they should also encourage the
baby’s father to do all he can for his family, in these testing times.
SOURCE:
What You Should Know About the Life of a New Mom
BY Nguyen Kinh Luan
http://lausks.com/what-you-should-know-about-the-life-of-a-new-mom-ad216.html
What You Should Know About the Life of a New Mom
BY Nguyen Kinh Luan
http://lausks.com/what-you-should-know-about-the-life-of-a-new-mom-ad216.html
